Do complementarians who restrict the pastoral office to men and Roman Catholics who say only men can be priests do so for the same reasons?No. The RCC restricts women from the priesthood as a matter of church discipline and Papal authority, as declared by JPII at least twice during his time in Rome.
We Prots do it because that's what Paul instructed Timothy and Titus to do.
Do protestants also believe the pastor is an alter Christus?No. The pastor does not offer a sacrifice for the people.
Can women who are not pastors be ordained?That's a more complicated question than it looks like. Can they be endorsed into some kind of ministry? I think so. Can they be ordained into leading and teaching the church? Nope.